About Frank
A regular guy, not a doctor. I just took the long way round and wrote down the route.
I’ve always had this problem. I didn’t have many partners, and when I was young we were far too inexperienced, and not mature enough, to talk about it. Today I’m older, I’ve been with my partner for a long time, and we’ve talked about it often. If I’m honest, it bothered me more than it bothered her, even if she would often have liked it to last a few minutes longer.
Like everybody, I tried the classics: working my pelvic floor, Kegels, counting in my head, thinking about my grandmother. Some of it helped a little in the moment, but nothing lasted. I wanted something that did.
So I sat down, thought about it, and tested different approaches until I found what worked for me. One day I had a simple thought: athletes train to get stronger, so why would sex be any different? That idea became the backbone of the program. Later I had a few people around me try it, and decided it was worth sharing.
What it took
Winning those few precious minutes took me years. I used to get up half an hour early every morning to practise. The program follows the same path, without the years spent searching in the dark, though I won’t promise it goes as fast for you: everyone climbs at their own pace.
Being able to choose the moment instead of having it happen to me is deeply satisfying, with a little pride mixed in. And I’ll be transparent: even today it doesn’t work every single time. The difference is that I know what works for me, and when it doesn’t, I know why and I can adjust.
What I’m not
I’m not a doctor, a sexologist or a therapist, and this program doesn’t replace one. When I cite numbers, I link to where they come from. When something might have a physical cause, I’ll tell you to see a doctor, and I mean it.
How I check facts
Every medical fact or number on this site is checked against medical sources before it’s written: the American Urological Association, the International Society for Sexual Medicine, large clinics like Cleveland Clinic, and studies on PubMed. Each page lists its sources at the end. If I can’t verify something, it goes, or I say clearly that the evidence is weak.
Nobody with a medical degree reviews these pages, and I won’t pretend otherwise. What I add is my own experience, and I always present it as that: what happened to me, not a rule. The date on each answer is the day its sources were last checked.
Why “Frank”
It’s a pen name. This is an intimate subject and I’d rather keep my private life private. You probably understand that better than most.