How to deal with setbacks when you're retraining your body
The crash after the progress
It happens.
You’ve had a good week. You’ve been practicing. You’ve felt more in control.
Then one night — boom. Back to square one. Too fast. Too soon.
And in your head, the spiral starts again:
“I’m failing.”
“This isn’t working.”
“Maybe I’ll never fix this.”
Stop. Breathe. This is part of the process.
Progress isn’t linear — especially with your body
Your nervous system doesn’t change like flipping a switch.
It rewires slowly. Through repetition, sensation, presence.
And sometimes, even with the best tools, your body will go back to old patterns.
Out of habit. Out of stress. Out of fear.
That doesn’t mean nothing is changing.
It means you’re in the middle of change.
And the middle is messy.
What you do after a setback matters more than the setback itself
The key moment isn’t the loss of control.
It’s what you do right after.
Do you panic? Shame yourself? Quit everything?
Or do you pause?
Notice what happened?
Stay kind?
Get curious?
Setbacks are data. They tell you where tension still lives. Where presence still slips.
They’re not proof of failure — they’re invitations to go deeper.
You’re not starting over — you’re continuing
The fact that you noticed means you’ve already changed.
Old you might have ignored the signals. Blamed your partner.
Now you’re aware. That’s progress. That counts.
Your body is learning a new language.
Some days it speaks it fluently.
Some days it stutters.
Keep showing up anyway.
That’s exactly what the Flow Control Method is built for.
Not perfection.
Practice.
Gentle, structured, repeatable practice.
So that even on the off days, you stay anchored. Connected. Empowered.
👉 Discover the Flow Control Method here
You don’t need to avoid setbacks.
You need to learn how to walk through them — and keep going.